Pink Dot 的祸害

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致刘玲玲女士，Pink Dot 大使

与敬重的父母亲们

刘女士，我带着沉重的心情写这封公开信给您。身为一名妈妈，相信您能够体会天下父母心。跟很多受华文教育的父母一样，我的家人也不太晓得Pink Dot 是什么，像您一样。跟您不同的是，他们明白我们为什么不应该支持这个对我们孩子们有害的组织。

Pink Dot是否有告诉您：

1.2015年，在我们热爱的祖国新加坡，首六月144 宗艾滋病毒个案中，百分之五十由同性恋者传播，百分之十由双性恋者传输。这么小的族群，却代表我国百分之六十的艾滋病感染者！如果您去彻查，美国与英国是我们的借鉴。他们的数字惨不忍睹。您要新加坡变成那样吗？

这是什么病毒，您是否晓得？鼓励／任由我们‘完美‘（您说的）的孩子走上这条死亡之路，您于心何忍？

就算您同意让自己的孩子走上这条不归路，您的良心可以让您用自己的知名度去大肆宣传这种‘爱死病‘吗？

爱应该是‘热爱生命‘啊！

2.我有我爱的朋友。我爱他们，所以我不会去Pink Dot 的抗议聚会。快乐不是那么一天表面的‘死亡支持‘。

我的朋友有的是我这一生的陪伴。他们不会受到我任何的歧视，就算他们选择走上这条永远都不能带给他们幸福的路。他们跟我们有什么不同？我们有什么了不起的？

不要带有色的眼光看待任何人。您的支持只会让他们觉得自己有多可悲。这是待人处事的方式吗？他们的受造，与你我一样，特殊与珍贵。他们的名字不叫‘同性恋者‘。不要被Pink Dot骗了。

我和朋友们看到太多例子，有很多人早已走出这死亡之谷，正努力走在‘生命之路‘。如果身为同性恋者是先天性，那他们为什么会改变呢？人的性格，环境，经历，家庭等导致有些人有这些倾向。他们，跟我们一样，需要的是心理辅导和家人朋友们的支持，走上康复之路。他们不需要认可，因为我们早已认可他们生存的价值，但我们绝对不认可他们糟蹋自己，也鼓励无辜的人这么做！

3.身为父母，都知道做孩子不容易，做父母亲，难上加难。无人完美，更别说我们的宝贝孩子们。刘女士，您三岁的小孩要玩火，您会说‘去吧，完美的孩子！‘吗？

我有我很爱的外甥和外甥女。我要留下一个怎么样的社会给他们呢？您只一面倒听到或看到不好的一面而认定这个社会缺少爱。这样的世界观，如何让您的孩子幸福呢？

爱不是不分对与错，爱不是任由孩子伤害自己，爱不是虚假，爱不是还没弄清楚状况就做了大使。

不要在父母的伤口上撒盐了！ 他们的心因为孩子而破碎，您还要让他们觉得自己因为不能接受孩子的行为而不是好父母吗？

感谢您阅读这封信。我只是要让您和所有受华文教育的人了解到Pink Dot 的祸害。

With all due respect to Madam Liu Ling Ling, Pink Dot Ambassador
and all parents

With a heavy heart I write this open letter to you, Madam Liu. You being a mother, would know the heart of every parent. Like a lot of Chinese-educated parents, my family members do not know much about Pink Dot, like you. What is different is that they understand why we should not support this movement that perpetuates harm to our children.

Did Pink Dot tell you that:

1. In Singapore, this country that we love so much, of the 144 HIV infected cases reported within the first six months of 2015, 50% were from homosexual transmission, 10% were from bisexual transmission. A very small population of people who lead such a lifestyle accounts for more than half of HIV infections in our nation. If you would research more, the situation in US and UK is even worse and it should be a warning sign to us that we do not want Singapore to go down this road. Do you?

Do you know how deadly this virus is? Do you want our children to walk the path of no-return? Even if you are comfortable with your own child leading a homosexual lifestyle, can your conscience rest on the fact that you use your fame to promote and encourage other parents to let their children destroy their lives?

Love is to treasure life!

2. I love my friends who are struggling with same-sex attraction. Therefore I would not go for Pink Dot gathering that is of demonstration component. Happiness is not that one day of superficial support.

My friends have my support for the rest of my life, if they are willing. They are not condemned by me, even if they choose to lead this lifestyle that we know will never grant them lasting joy and satisfaction. 

How are they different from us? What is so great about us?

Do not look at people who struggle with same-sex attraction differently. Your support only make them feel pitiful. Is this how we relate to one another? They are uniquely made, precious like you and me. Their name is not 'lesbian' or 'gay' or 'transgender'.

Do not be deceived by Pink Dot.

My friends and I have seen too many cases whereby many people left this lifestyle and strive to lead a life of hope, not of impending death, both to the spirit and soul. If being same-sex attracted is inborn, why do people change? Many factors like a person's character, environment, life experiences and family situations etc cause people to have same-sex attraction or to desire to be a female when one is male. 

They, like us, need counselling and support from family and friends to walk on the path to recovery. They do not need our acceptance. Society has already accepted their existence, just like the same for us. But we do not accept that they are not only harming their health, they are also promoting such a dangerous lifestyle to our innocent children.

3. Parents know that it's not easy to take up parental roles, just as it's not easy for children in their everyday communication with their parents. No one is perfect, same for our precious children. 

Madam Liu, if your 3 years old kid wants to play with fire, would you say, 'Go, my child!'?

I love my nieces and nephews. What kind of society do I want to leave them with? You are informed by one-sided perspective on the society; that society lacks love. With such a worldview, how can you show love and hope to your child?

Love differentiates between right and wrong. Love is not letting our children hurt themselves. Love is not hypocritical. And love is definitely not becoming an ambassador without knowing the real situation and its implications.

Please do not add salt to the wounds of parents. They are already heartbroken because of their children's actions. Aren't you implying that they are bad parents just because they cannot accept that their children are not leading a wholesome life?

Thank you for reading this letter. I just want you and those who are Chinese-educated to know the destroying nature of Pink Dot. 

Response to Pink Dot third and final video 2016, Part 2

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Part 1: https://www.facebook.com/lovexenos/posts/823743147760873

I am thankful that AJ's family stands by him as AJ builds up his health after being diagnosed as HIV positive.

The purpose of this video is beyond family love. It is a challenge to family members especially parents:

'Support children who are gay= Parental love'

This is directed to parents, to mums who are bonded with their children from day one of pregnancy.

I grieve with every parent who cannot agree with this video. I plead every parent not to push away any child who confesses to you what is wrong.

Be there for them. You don't have to support them in what is wrong. You are there to love them like any parent, like Christopher Yuan's parents.

If any of my friends or loved ones walk down this path,I will be devastated like AJ's mum. Just like her, I will research all about HIV and how to strengthen his immune system. As AJ's mum said, there is NO CURE.

BUT the question is, "Is AJ fated to be gay and now fated to have HIV?"

AJ started experimenting with sex. He knows the consequences, just like his mum now.

HIV infection is preventable. It is not like a disability that one is born with. It is a CHOICE for so many liberals who claim to be pro-choice and every choice comes with consequences which many are not prepared for.

Love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth.

Love comes with great responsibility for self and others since we don't love in a vacuum.

The truth is:

Of the 144 cases reported within the first six months of 2015, 50% were from homosexual transmission, 10% were from bisexual transmission. A very small population of people who lead such a lifestyle accounts for more than half of HIV infections in our nation! https://www.moh.gov.sg/…/update-on-hiv-aids-situation-in-si…

Does not one's personal life influence his family and the nation?

Does not one have a choice to turn life around despite being HIV positive?

Pink Dot, why make such a video to inflict further pain on parents who love their children but cannot and rightly so, accept their lifestyle which leads to premature death?

Just like how I used to threaten suicide to get what I want as a confused and rebellious teen. I know too well a mother's heart.

And so today, PARENTS, I stand with you.

Support your children in righteous ways. Even if they don't understand now. They will in future, just like me.

AJ, if you truly love and care for your mum, turn away from this life of destruction. My prayers are with you and your mum.

God's love the purest.

To Joan and Pauline, from Serene (Response to Pink Dot First Video 2016, Part 1)

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Hi ladies, I'm Serene. I do not know you personally but I know the two of you in my personality and in my past.

I am bubbly like Pauline, laughing loudly with no concern: )

I was depressed and lonely like Joan, until I let Jesus into my life nearly 10 years ago.

Joan, I didn't know what you went through or are still going through but I went through a major depression and like you, I contemplated suicide.

In fact, I attempted suicide and ended up in the Intensive Care Unit (ICU). With tubes all over me to monitor my progress after pumping out the toxic medicine in my stomach, I saw my family members. For the first time in my life, I saw the tears in their eyes and realized that this life is not my own. I do not have the right to end this life which my Lord gave me.

My mother died with no goodbye. My family was no longer the same. I wanted to be with my mother who was my world. I wanted my imperfect family back. I needed not just my dad but also my mum.

Attempting suicide was my desperate cry for help. I knew something was very wrong in my life. Yet, suicide can never get me what I want nor is a solution to challenges in life. Suicide only hurt the people who love me.

I have a University friend who did not agree with the way I lived my life after my mum's death at 19 years old. She was there for me, just like Pauline is to you, Joan. I thank God for the beautiful friendship between Pauline and you.

None of my friends agree with my wayward ways before I received Christ. Does love equals agreement in life issues, especially when it is homosexuality that comes with great and divine consequences?

How many times have family members, friends or colleagues quarrelled with one another simply because each of us is unique and thus have differing viewpoints? Does that mean we don't love one another?

What exactly does God say about homosexuality and other sins? I'm sure you know. How does our heart deceive us? Do we know?

Are our desires greater than obedience to our holy God?

Jesus is our Hero who saved us from our sins, sanctifies us daily and gives us His Spirit to lead a transformed life.

No man is our hero. That is exaltation of man. Our courage comes from our Lord. We are nothing apart from Him.

Courage is not coming out and giving yourself a label 'lesbian'. Pauline, you are not a label but a person of great worth. I pray you first acknowledge this deep in your heart. No one can convince us of how precious we are except our Creator.

Everyone deserves acceptance but not every behaviour is accepted to progress as a nation.

A parent will always accept a child but will not accept the child's behaviour of smoking simply because smoking harms the child's health.

Pauline and Joan, there is no straight ally or straight people. There is no LGBT community.

We are all one community, people who are broken, needing the mercy and grace of God to be extraordinary.

We are all human beings made in God's image, destined to lead a transformed life in Christ.

Let our Lord Jesus Christ illuminate your mind and heart.

Thank you for reading this note, truly from the love of a stranger.

Shalom,
Serene

The stark difference between light and darkness

On 10 April, Sunday, I read the shocking and depressing news of our teenage boys paying for sex. Though I know it's now common for people to have premarital sex starting from teenage years, it was still shocking that they actually pay for it, treat sex like a game of tennis...
For 3 days, I had this prompting to write in but I only obeyed on the third day.
I was thinking, maybe others would write in; people more qualified than me...
It is always a big project to write in, with me sitting in front of the computer for a few hours...
3 days of rationalizing why I didn't need to write in.
Or rather 3 days of disobedience to God's voice.
After I wrote in, I had a great sense of relief.
My Lord has taught me to write and then surrender to Him as to whether it would be published or not.
Yes, good.
No, it is always a good practice, carry on.
In both cases, there is great impetus to write better each time. I am learning to sincerely thank God for each letter, instead of beating myself up for not writing better on hindsight.
To do that is to belittle the Holy Spirit in me, who enabled me to write each letter.
I will always improve, even if it is not as fast as I want.
My language is simple but God has assured me that in my simple language, I bring a clear message across.
While I may bemoan that I don't write as beautifully or as expressively as others, this is me, my language, my style of writing, my code.
This time round is interesting.
1. I took 3 days to obey. Why wait for others to write in? Everyone must have thought the same thing. This world becomes darker when each light tries to hide.
2. When the letter was published, it was like a face-off with him.
3. I learnt lessons about light and darkness, about obeying God. Delayed obedience is disobedience :(

http://www.straitstimes.com/forum/letters-in-print/rethink-what-we-teach-teens-about-sex

When I saw him at a meeting last year, he recognized me but we are now of different camps.
I thank God that I am now in the light.
The things I see now, I never knew before.
I felt very sad that he has gone far, that it is a point of no return unless he opens his heart to receive Christ.
The whole issue about casual sex is not about stigmatizing people.
It's about wrong behaviours with dire consequences.
People in the dark take offence/issues personally because they know subconsciously that something is wrong with their behaviour.
They are blind or in denial of the root causes of problems, patching holes instead of renewing the mind.
They attribute personal responsibility to others, seeing themselves as victims rather than conquerors over life issues.
There is loss of control in darkness where diseases abound.
Light shows off self-control that gives life.
The stark difference between light and darkness is portrayed in these two letters.
Nothing to do with the writers but the God in me and the god who is he.
I have never stopped praying for him and his organization.
I know my God will bring back His lost sheep.

Debunk the myths of love and sex

I agree with Singapore Children's Society chief executive Alfred Tan that "we have to start talking about sexuality issues with our children, to let them know what's right and what's wrong, when they are as young as possible" ("More teenage boys paying for sex: Study"; last Sunday).

The children of today will listen only when they are convinced by what they have been taught.

Our culture, through movies, dramas, magazines, pornography, music and the arts, has taught us that having casual sex is a romantic experiment that has no consequences.

It is no wonder that there are more myths than facts about love and sex.

Virginity is seen as unacceptable and to be mocked at, manhood is equated with sexual conquest, not having a girlfriend is seen as weird and having multiple partners is deemed charming ("Allure of paid sex for teenage boys" and "Sexuality education 'helps cut infection rate' "; both published last Sunday).

The result is peer pressure to conform, and there is loss of face and friends if one does not.

Parents, as the primary communicators of sexuality with their children, should be alert to all these trends affecting their children.

How does one take a stand and refuse to succumb to negative peer pressure?

How equipped and open are parents to address the needs and genuine questions of their children towards sex?

Do condoms solve the emotional issues surrounding sex?

The psychological and physical damage caused to our young through casual sex cannot be underestimated. Other consequences include abortion and children born out of wedlock.

Social costs are also incurred to help unwed mothers and to treat sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

A man in his prime should not be infected with an STD that affects his studies, career, family and the nation as a whole.

It is time we stepped up sexuality education that empowers our children to say "no" to premarital sex with full conviction.

http://www.straitstimes.com/forum/letters-in-print/debunk-the-myths-of-love-and-sex